I don't know if you guys have friendships where you know that keeping the relationship going is only going to be destructive in the end, but I have one, and it's a situation where I know I definitely need to let it go. It has, in the past, often been one of those 'one way' friendships; in other words, I do all the talking, or at least I am always the one to re-initiate contact. I have only gotten silence from the other person for a couple months, and I was the last person to communicate anything between the two of us. I feel as though this might be someone telling me to just let it happen, let go of it, let it die because it will be better this way. Deep inside, I sense that this might be the right thing to do.

It is taking all of my strength and resolve not to initiate contact once again. The temptation to remind the other person that I exist and that we are friends is very strong. It's taking everything I have not to give in and say something because I don't want this to die. I don't want to.

And if I succeed in keeping my mouth shut and not desperately seeking to re-initiate the friendship and the other person spontaneously talks to me without my having to remind them, perhaps we are meant to remain friends for now.

I've just got to let go of it. Loosen my grip, open my hands, and let it go. I don't know how, but I have to try.